VIDEO PREMIERE: DBANJ AND SNOOP DOGG 'ENDOWED'!!

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I must say that I myself have been waiting for the release of this video and I was so excited once I heard it was out.  Dbanj is a mega-star in his own right and it was only fitting for him to colloborate with another big name in music. So please watch and enjoy....

The Nigerian Boy who Conquered America: King of Home Equity Fraud

Tobi Onwuhara(right) and his protege Ezenwa Onyedebelu at  a Dallas nightclub

A luxury suite at the W Hotel in Dallas is as good a place as any to conquer the world. At least it seemed that way in 2007 when Tobechi Onwuhara got the crew together. They'd meet there often, seven or eight of them. Some had nicknames from the Ian Fleming lexicon: C, Q, and E. Others were called Mookie, Orji, Uche. They would spread out on designer sofas and at the wet bar, open three-ring binders, and fire up laptops with hard-to-trace wireless cards. On a nearby table there'd be prepaid cellphones with area codes taped to them. A phone for Southern California. A phone for Northern Virginia. A phone for any place Onwuhara had found the "good money."

In those days, the good money wasn't hard to find. The housing boom had flooded the country with capital. Lenders were making promiscuous loans to unsophisticated borrowers. It was an ideal environment for Onwuhara, 27, a brilliant, pug-faced visionary who favored True Religion jeans and Ed Hardy shirts. Looking out over the neon skyline of downtown Dallas, it was easy for the crew to believe his assurances: He'd make them rich. When the sun glinted off one of his $100,000 diamond-encrusted Audemars Piguet watches, who could doubt it? Every few months he would buy a new Maserati or Bentley. He owned expensive properties in Miami, Dallas, and Phoenix. He even had a secret love condo in the W, where scantily clad women visited in such numbers that one bellhop became convinced that the first-generation Nigerian-American was a porn director.

The truth was very different. In his ancestral homeland, Onwuhara might have been a chief. In America he became one of the world's most successful cyberscammers, a criminal genius who used his talents to filet a poorly regulated banking and credit system. In less than three years Onwuhara stole a confirmed $44 million, according to the FBI, which believes the total may be anywhere from $80 million to $100 million. All he needed was an Internet connection and a cellphone.

Onwuhara called it "washing." He'd set up a boiler room in a fancy hotel (the Waldorf-Astoria was another favorite) to wash information on wealthy victims. Then he'd wash bank accounts. One group in his crew would do online research using databases and websites to harvest names, dates of birth, and mortgage information. They'd build profiles of victims for a second group, who would call banks posing as account holders. The callers cadged security information and passwords. Then Onwuhara would breach the accounts and wire funds from them to a network of money mules he had established in Asia. The money would be laundered and wired back to his accounts in the U.S.

"I call it modern-day bank robbery," says FBI special agent Michael Nail. "You can sit at home in your PJs and slippers with a laptop, and you can actually rob a bank."

Onwuhara specialized in hitting home equity lines of credit (HELOCs), the reservoirs of cash that banks make available to homeowners. Once Onwuhara gained access to a HELOC, he could siphon out vast sums in seconds. His weapon was persuasion. It got him enough money to start building a colonnaded fortress in Nigeria; enough to gamble at the high-stakes tables in Vegas casinos all night. Even his accomplices appear not to have known how much he was really pulling down -- not even his beautiful fiancée, Precious Matthews.

"He was playing all of us," says Paula Gipson, a member of the crew. "The banks, us, Precious, everybody." Conversations with Gipson and other Onwuhara associates, interviews with his family and with investigators, and hundreds of pages of court documents reveal a digital scavenger of extraordinary creativity and guile. Onwuhara orchestrated his swindles using information about homeowners that is widely available online. In fragments, this information is innocuous. When assembled properly, it can be used like an electronic skeleton key to get into almost any credit account. Onwuhara needed only a few short years to rack up an illicit fortune. And he's still at large.

The son of an entrepreneur

The state of Abia in Nigeria stretches from the plains in the north to the riverine flats in the south and resembles, on a map, a giraffe's head. It is a swath of farmland filled with yam fields, cashew orchards, and the sorrowful memories of the Igbo people. The Igbo are Christian, but they jokingly call themselves "black Jews" because so many leave home to establish themselves in business. Abia is their heartland. In the late 1960s it was part of Biafra, a secessionist state with the misfortune of sitting atop vast oil deposits. When the Nigerian civil war erupted, more than a million Biafrans were killed or starved to death. Onwuhara's parents survived.

His father, Doris, was an entrepreneur, one of the first people in Nigeria to import satellite TVs. He built the first major hotel in Abia's capital, Umuahia. Visitors came from miles away to dance in the hotel's nightclub. As Umuahia expanded and land values appreciated, so did Doris's influence. He moved into politics, held office, and managed a successful campaign for a governor of Abia.

Onwuhara's mother, Katherine, was equally accomplished. A lawyer and literary critic, she served as chairwoman of Abia's board of education. The four daughters she had with Doris would go on to be nurses and ministers. But her fifth child, her only son, would be different. He would be American. Katherine was five months pregnant with Tobechi when she left Nigeria to attend school in Houston. "Tobe" was born there in 1979.

Katherine returned to Nigeria when Tobe was still a boy, leaving him with an uncle in Houston. She thought the tight-knit diaspora would look after him. But once Tobe reached his teenage years he started skipping school and getting into trouble. The family shipped him back to Nigeria at age 15 and enrolled him in a boarding school run by the Marist Brothers, a Catholic order known for educational discipline. Onwuhara graduated and enrolled in medical school at Abia State University. He was by all accounts an exceptionally clever, shy boy who spoke infrequently but eloquently. He longed to return to the U.S.

In 1999, Onwuhara moved back to Texas. He rented an apartment in Dallas and took classes at Brookhaven College. He found a job as a loan officer at Capital One (COF, Fortune 500). He learned how banks worked from the inside, studying documents and procedures. (Capital One declines to discuss Onwuhara.) Then he turned to crime. With the help of a friend who had connections at Discover Financial Services (DFS, Fortune 500), Onwuhara cooked up driver's licenses and credit cards under the names of real customers, according to court documents. He bought electronics at CompUSA. He hit up restaurants and clubs. That was how he met Precious Matthews, a pretty Baylor student majoring in speech communication. Matthews worked as a waitress; Onwuhara was a regular, flirtatious customer. When Precious warned him the establishment was suspicious of his transactions, Onwuhara was smitten. The two started dating and were soon engaged.

In 2002, Onwuhara was arrested three times in Texas for credit card fraud. The police raided his apartment and found incriminating evidence. Onwuhara had mastered some techniques of identity theft and stolen more than $100,000 with an accomplice, according to a statement he gave to the authorities, but he was still a fledgling criminal making silly mistakes. Chief among them was going into a store or a bank in person to commit fraud. He would learn later to distance himself from a crime and leave few traces of his involvement. But not yet.

When the heat in Texas got too great, Onwuhara left for Seattle to meet Abel Nnabue, a Nigerian friend known as "Q." On Dec. 12, 2002, the two men drove to a bank in Lynwood, Wash., their wallets packed with fake IDs and unauthorized credit cards. Nnabue waited in their gold Plymouth Neon rental car while Onwuhara entered the bank to try for a $5,000 cash advance. When the bank called the police, Onwuhara bolted outside and into the Neon, just as a cruiser arrived. Nnabue sped away on wet streets, gunning the Neon through stop signs. Two more cop cars joined the chase; Onwuhara threw his wallet out the window. The police cornered the men in the parking lot of a Korean church. Onwuhara fled on foot, and a K-9 unit found him hiding in a pond. In May 2003 he was sentenced to 12 months in prison.

"I'm deeply and sincerely sorry," he told a federal judge. "You'll never again see me in any kind of trouble with the law or hear anything negative about me from this day forward."

By the time Onwuhara got out of prison, the housing market was bubbling.

"He made it thunderstorm."
The Dallas Gentlemen's Club is one of Texas's bawdiest fleshpots, a highway-side warehouse of grinding booty and slack-jawed marks. The club attracts big spenders -- athletes, rap stars -- but Onwuhara made them look like flunkies. When he walked in, the strippers would beeline for him, their cellphones lighting up as they called their off-duty friends: "Get over here! T just showed up!" They knew what to expect -- $650 bottles of Cristal, $2,000 stacks of ones for his entourage, $50,000 in a briefcase he'd empty out. During a single song, he'd drop so much money the girls needed two more songs to scoop all the bills off the floor. He'd repeat this performance several times a week.

"He didn't just make it rain," one dancer would later tell the authorities. "He made it thunderstorm."

At the end of the night, Onwuhara liked to idle outside the club in his $300,000 Rolls-Royce Phantom waiting for the girls to exit, according to interviews with FBI investigators. When he saw one he liked, he'd simply point. She was coming back to the W. If women were his weakness, strippers were his vice. But Precious would eventually find out. Still engaged, she and Onwuhara had moved in together.

The studious, soft-spoken Tobe had disappeared. Onwuhara, now known as "T," was the owner of S.W.A.T. Up Entertainment, a rap label; a deluxe apartment in Dallas and a mansion in Miramar, Fla.; and a diamond chain the size of a tow rope that he wore around his neck. Dangling at the end of the chain was a grinning mini-T clutching sacks of money like a cartoon bank robber, which is what Onwuhara increasingly resembled.

In hindsight, it seems obvious that a savvy cybercriminal would target HELOCs. From 1998 to 2007, the percentage of homeowners with HELOCs jumped from 10.6% to 18.4%. Credit balances soared. All the information a scammer needed was available online. The trick was cobbling it together. Onwuhara taught himself how.

Using ListSource, a direct-marketing company, he'd collect mortgage information on married couples with million-dollar homes. They qualified for high HELOCs. He'd find lease or loan papers through public databases and pay sites, then use Photoshop to grab homeowners' signatures off documents. Next, he'd build a profile of the victim by paying for a background search through skip-tracing sites. That would give him birth dates, Social Security numbers, names of relatives, previous addresses, employment histories, and more. To get a mother's maiden name he would use Ancestry.com.

Profile in hand, he would run a credit check on victims through annualcreditreport.com, a website set up by the big three credit-reporting agencies. Onwuhara had discovered a flaw in the Experian portion of the site, which screened users with a personalized security question and several multiple-choice answers. Users had to click on the correct answer to proceed. But when Onwuhara refreshed his browser, he found that the site replaced certain answers with new ones. Clearly, these were red herrings. Onwuhara knew the correct answer to the security question would appear persistently on screen as he refreshed. Enough refreshing would eventually reveal the true answer and allow Onwuhara to access reports. (A spokesman for Experian says that the company is cooperating with law enforcement authorities and that "since this case we have refined our security protocol.") The reports provided Onwuhara with details about the victim's HELOC. He preferred credit union HELOCs: They were soft targets.

At this point artistry came into play. Onwuhara used a phone service called SpoofCard to make any number he wanted appear in a caller ID. This was key to his scam. With SpoofCard, Onwuhara could fool financial institutions into thinking his call originated from the victim's phone. Onwuhara knew the system. He knew the questions he'd get. Usually he had the answers, along with account numbers, balances, and passwords. Altering his gravelly voice like a professional actor, he could switch ethnicity, age, and accent on a whim. A customer service rep was easy prey.

Once in, Onwuhara would wire HELOC money out of the country. Financial institutions faxed wire transfer requests to his e-fax account, which converted faxes to e-mails. After attaching Photoshopped signatures and phony headers, he would send the forms back. The money would be wired to banks in Asia where mules that Onwuhara had recruited would withdraw the money, take a cut, and redeposit the funds into other accounts or with hawalas, informal money brokers who ask few questions.

Finally, the money would be wired back to the U.S. into accounts Onwuhara controlled. At one point he received a 40-million-euro transfer. He would further launder the money by depositing it in casinos and cashing out in checks days later. He would also buy ultra-expensive luxury cars, drive them for a few months, then ship them to Nigeria, where they would be resold at a steep markup. Onwuhara was clearing about $7 million every two weeks, according to the FBI.

The mastermind shared few details of the scam, even with his inner circle. Precious Matthews and Paula Gipson knew the most, mainly because Onwuhara couldn't impersonate women on the phone. He needed them to pose as female account holders and had to give them more information. Nnabue gathered mortgage information and loan documents. Ezenwa ("E") Onyedebelu, a promising young student from Dallas whom Onwuhara had tapped as his protégé, laundered money. Henry Obilo, a hulking pre-med student who doubled as Onwuhara's bodyguard, specialized in Bank of America (BAC, Fortune 500) information.

Onwuhara doled out profits according to a person's role. Callers received more than researchers, and members of the crew competed to work the phones. If they weren't slick enough, Onwuhara bumped them back to online scutwork. All the money, all the information, ran through him. He never stored sensitive data on his computer, keeping it instead on a flash drive he could easily destroy. But no matter the precautions he took to cover his tracks, something was bound to go awry. Sometimes you just hit the wrong man.

The net tightens
On Dec. 8, 2007, Robert "Duke" Short sat down in front of his PC. It was around 10 a.m., a few hours before Short was to take his wife to their regular weekend lunch near their home in Alexandria, Va. Short wanted to check his accounts at the U.S. Senate Federal Credit Union. A former U.S. Treasury agent, Short arrived in D.C. from South Carolina as the Treasury Department's national chief of investigations. He got into politics and became Strom Thurmond's chief of staff. He spent 30 years on Capitol Hill. He was, in other words, the wrong man to hit.

That morning, Short couldn't log into his account. His password had been changed, and the credit union was closed. Short called in on Monday. When he accessed his account, he saw that $280,000 was missing, most of it from his high-limit HELOC account.

"They said this money was transferred to Korea," he recalls. "They said, 'Are you sure you didn't do that?' I said, 'Listen, if that amount of money was transferred to Korea, I would know.'"

The credit union would protect Short from any losses -- in fact, almost all of Onwuhara's victims eventually had their monetary losses covered by their financial institutions, although they still had to cope with the shock of identity theft and ruined credit ratings.

Short called the Alexandria police department, the Secret Service, and the FBI. Within days an investigation was underway.

The investigators' first clue came from the IP addresses used to log in to Short's account. The FBI determined that someone had called the credit union to reset Short's password, sounding like an older white man. The caller claimed that the auto login to his account had vanished after his son had set up a new computer for him. He was convincing. But after the password was reset, the caller logged in to Short's account while still on the phone. The FBI now had a precise IP address to track. It belonged to a Verizon Wireless Internet card registered to a fictitious name and a real address in Miramar, Fla., just a few doors down from Onwuhara's mansion, a fact the FBI would discover later.

Onwuhara bought wireless Internet service with prepaid debit cards, making him virtually untraceable. But he still had to go to a Verizon (VZ, Fortune 500) store to make purchases. Two deposits had been made to the Verizon account tied to the Short crime. Both occurred in Plano, Texas. When investigators pulled security video from the store, they saw three men at a kiosk. One was wearing an Ed Hardy hoodie covered in rhinestone skulls. Investigators began looking for names.

They knew their thief had intercepted a call from the credit union to Short to confirm the wire transfer. Onwuhara had duped Short's phone company into remotely forwarding calls to Onwuhara's cell, a tactic he used often. But it backfired when investigators obtained a list of phones to which customers' home numbers were being forwarded. On the list, they found numerous prepaid phone numbers. Calls were being made from these numbers to banks across the country and to 1-800 numbers belonging to SpoofCard. These were the scammers' virtual fingerprints.

An FBI search warrant produced 1,500 recorded calls connected to the suspicious SpoofCard accounts. (SpoofCard says that it doesn't routinely record calls made over its system, but that callers may opt to do so.) The tapes were a jackpot for investigators. "There were so many different voices," says FBI special agent Hadley Etienne. "They all knew what to say. They all had it down."

For months investigators listened to the tapes, hoping for a break. "You know how it is when you're reading a good book and you're just reading and reading and reading," says Michael Nail, the lead FBI investigator. "It was like that. I was at home one weekend listening to calls. And this one call came up."

In it, Onwuhara does a pitch-perfect impersonation of a middle-aged white doctor calling in a prescription to a CVS (CVS, Fortune 500) pharmacy. The prescription was for Valtrex, a herpes medication. The patient was Tobe Onwuhara. At last, investigators had a name. They pulled a Texas DMV photo of Onwuhara. It matched the image of the man in the hoodie from the Verizon video. Their quarry was in reach, but they needed more evidence.

In April 2008, agents detained Onwuhara, Nnabue, Matthews, and Obilo at J.F.K. International Airport in New York. The group was flying home after a vacation in Nigeria. They had stayed at the Ritz in London during their stopover. Onwuhara had even brought his diamond chain. Investigators told the scammers they were being stopped as part of a routine travel check. Their real purpose was to confirm the voices and nicknames they'd heard on the tapes and the phone numbers used in the calls. Now they would begin to monitor Onwuhara's phone and station cars in the street outside his Miramar mansion to conduct surveillance.

The crew starts to unravel
If the airport stop rattled Onwuhara, he didn't show it. He still ate fish and rice at Pappadeaux's in Dallas. He still threw parties at the chic Ghost Bar on the roof of the W. But nerves were fraying within his crew, according to Paula Gipson. Nnabue complained about his pay. Gipson agonized over her crimes yet justified them by saying she was only hurting the banks. Matthews spiraled into a depression. She enjoyed the finer things Onwuhara provided her -- shopping sprees at high-end stores, weekends in the best hotels, a house with a new pool -- but their relationship had grown combustible. She and Onwuhara fought. After one argument he stormed through the Miramar house and smashed the screens of the plasma TVs.

It was around this time that Onwuhara grew suspicious that law enforcement might be on to him. FBI agents had placed both a pen register and a trap-and-trace device on his phone, which let them record all outgoing and incoming numbers. Onwuhara somehow found out. When he called Cingular/AT&T (T, Fortune 500), his cellphone carrier, the company "accidentally" revealed the name and number of the FBI technician tracking him, according to an FBI affidavit in support of a criminal complaint. But people who know Onwuhara don't think it was an accident.

"He has a way of getting people to tell him everything," Gipson says.

On July 30, 2008, he destroyed his cell and switched to another phone the FBI wasn't monitoring. The FBI didn't know where he'd gone. Was he making an escape? Emergency arrest warrants were obtained. Two days later, on a perfect South Florida night, the agents watching Onwuhara's house noticed a commotion. Matthews ran outside, followed by a familiar-looking man. Matthews sped away in her Acura. The man followed in a black BMW X6 registered to Onwuhara. The agents gave chase as the cars rocketed down the highway at more than 100 mph.

"I got some calls," Nail says. "They were like, 'Hey, they're speeding. Should we stop them now?'"

Nail consulted Etienne and the assistant U.S. attorney on the case. They decided to make the arrest. The agents on the ground followed the speeding cars to the Hard Rock Casino in Fort Lauderdale. The Acura and the BMW screeched to a halt at the curb in front of the casino. The drivers rushed inside, where local police detained them. The man from the BMW wasn't Onwuhara but rather his protégé, Ezenwa Onyedebelu. In the seconds before the FBI arrived with handcuffs to make the arrest, Matthews whipped out her cellphone and fired off a text: "Leave now. They got us."
Somewhere inside the Hard Rock, maybe at one of his beloved craps tables, one of the greatest cyberscammers in history looked up from his phone, calmly headed for a back door, and hailed a cab. Then he melted into the night. He hasn't been seen since.

Floating between worlds
"I was taught by my dad not to be a follower," Onwuhara once said.

He is following his own treacherous path now, one that few have charted. A most-wanted fugitive, he has a $25,000 bounty on his head. Almost all of Onwuhara's co-conspirators were indicted and pleaded guilty. Precious Matthews was sentenced to 51 months in prison. Daniel "Orji" Orjinta got 42 months. Abel Nnabue had his sentence reduced to 27 months after cooperating with prosecutors. Paula Gipson and Ezenwa Onyedebelu helped prosecutors and had their sentences reduced to 15 months and 14 months, respectively. Only Henry Obilo pleaded not guilty. He was sentenced to 88 months in prison.

As for Onwuhara, the FBI claims to have no clue where he is. One accomplice swears he's still in America. Maybe he's floating between worlds in cyberspace, probing for new cracks in new systems. "The boy is an enigma," says one of his sisters. "What can I tell you?"

By Luke O'Brien - CNN.

SMH...

FOOLISHNESS AT ITS BEST! LOL

Hey guys
Thank Goodness its Friday!! yay!! and for your viewing pleasure I have decided to share this video that I just stumbled on of Dakore (now Mrs. Akande) singing to her hubby. This piece is hilarious, I couldnt stop laughing as I listened to the lyrics. Funny stuffs...Enjoy

NOLLYWOOD/HOLLYWOOD MOVIE: 'BLACK GOLD'

This is not another one of those movies because they were shot overseas, the producers claim that it is Hollywood. This is a real internationally acclaimed movie, it can be found on NetFlix and it is a guild film unlike so many others who claim...

I saw the movie trailer and I must say, I was impressed. It sorta gives you that 'Blood Diamond' feel to it. Give credit to Jeta Amata who serves as the creator of this epic movie. Looking at the poster, you can see that they actually used 'real' hollywood stars such as Vivica Fox, Eric Roberts and Michael Madsen. kudos.

VIDEO PREMIERE: 9ICE, 'APPETIZER'

Hey guys,
Check out the new video from one of our fav artists 9ice...I like the video because of its originality. Its nothing too special but it works...





What y'all think?...

Family Fab: Cute Pic of Adaeze Igwe Yobo and Son

 

I just had to post this cute picture of Mrs. Yobo (wife of Naija soccer star Joseph Yobo) with her little boy Joey. adorable mummy and son time. Adaeze recently spoke on her struggles on shedding the baby weight and the changes that her body have experienced since giving birth. 

Still a fab chick anytime anyday!

*sidenote* I hope that is not a braid I see on baby boys head :/ 

Female Student discovers Ants in her private part after Sex with Boyfriend

Happy New Year My NYF,
I'm sorry I have been away, but a girl gar to take a break considering it was Christmas lol. Hope you all have a wonderful and blessed holiday. Well I have another one of our shocking relationship stories that we all can learn from...

This is the employment of rituals as a cover up for Yahoo business. Those involved in the Yahoo Plus business now girlfriends, relations and even family members for rituals in their bid to get quick money. One of the most recent occurrences is the story of a 21 years old undergraduate who miraculously survived this ritual ordeal from her boyfriend. And when she overcame this, she was so full of excitement as she went as far as giving the testimony in church .Even though the circumstances that lead her into this situation was against the biblical junction of resisting fornication from the opposite sex, that did not however stop her from sharing her testimony because she could have been dead if not for God. 

This is her shocking story: “My name is Vera. I’m 21 years old and want to share a true life story that I was almost a victim of with all of you especially the girls. I had a boyfriend named Jide, he was a Yahoo Boy and we dated for 3 months. Jide and I used to have sex constantly but we always used condoms, until one day he insisted we don’t use any condom. I asked him why and he got angry so I agreed and just then, I remembered that I had a female condom, so I excused myself and went to the toilet to put it on. We then had sex and immediately he jumped up and said he had something to do for his father. He dressed up quickly and dropped some money on the bed and he left. I went out and I went to clean up, when I removed the condom, I saw worms and big black ants inside it. I screamed and ran out! If I hadn’t used the female condom, all those worms were meant to enter inside me and kill me as part of the money ritual process, she said”
And Vera is just few of those that were lucky to have survived to recount their ordeal. Several girls have not been that lucky.

Why the Yahoo Plus thing is such a big deal now is the extent to which this young guys go to make money. It involves performing various rituals, including sleeping in a cemetery and bathing in a flowing river to give them more control over whoever their victim is, and getting their victims hypnotized. Once this is successfully done, the victim is guaranteed of a regular flow of money.

Interestingly, prior to this using of girlfriends, the victim of the Yahoo Plus boys were internet victims. Some of them have small tortoise they keep under their feet whenever, they are chatting on their laptop with a potential victim. Others also bear incision on their finger tips and has a charm-filled animal horn prepared by the numerous fetish priests they visit. So any time, they used picture of a female to deceive these men, they are easily hypnotized and fall for their tactics.

But their style of operation has since changed and most of these Yahoo boys are now into rituals with most of their close relatives, spouses and girlfriends, at high risk of falling victims. 


Story: NFC, Bola Akinboade

Genevieve confirms she gets her freak on with Dbanj?!

What do you like in man, and I mean that in terms of his physique, Tejubaby Face asked the beautiful actress on his show that aired last night.
Genny said she doesn't care what a man looks like, all that matters to her is his heart. "I like a man with a very good heart". she said. 

So Tejubabyface brings out a picture of her and D'Banj and asked "Is there any truth in this?"
"He has a very very good heart" Genevieve replied, blushing.
"Alright, there you have it folks, case closed." Teju said



hmmm at this point its like wuteva..."yawn"
Source:NFC

"LOVE LIKE A WOMAN, THINK LIKE A MAN- GET WHAT'S YOURS"

This is for my ladies,
y'all know I always publish things that I am sure we can all learn from be it fashion, news or relationships...so today I have some new tips to share with my fabulous ladies.

The difference between men and women when it comes to dating is that most men consider a date simply that: a date.  Most likely if he’s dating you with no explicitly stated commitment, he’s dating other women as well.


TIPS:
1) CHANGE YOUR WAY OF THINKING
Stop thinking of 'marriage' as soon as you meet a guy, just relax and have fun like you would with a friend. 


2) DON'T OVER ANALYZE
Don't over analyze over every text message or conversation you guys share. Just go with the flow. Stop thinking!


3) DON'T WORRY ABOUT POTENTIAL
Don't start thinking about his financial status or his family background once you meet him. Get to know him first, you might see so many things that you like about his personality eg sense of humor, romantic type etc...


4) DON'T GIVE TOO MUCH TOO SOON
Giving too much could come in form of 'sex' or 'domestic favors'. Don't start acting like a wifey without strong commitment. Don't give him too much of yourself.


5) DON'T EXPOSE TOO MUCH TOO SOON
Avoid deep conversations, such as your past relationships or why you have been searching for a husband since you graduated from college. Save some for later...


6)KNOW WHEN TO LET GO
If you are starting to see signs or traits that you cannot handle, maybe its time to peace out and move on. Ladies need to know when its no longer working because guys are very skilled in this department.


hmmmm I soo agree!!!


source-MADAME NOIRE

"I came out of Prison a new Person"-Ibinabo Fiberesima

As she relived memories of her sad past, tears rolled down her cheeks. Intermittently, she would pulse, gaze into the space and then continue. Right inside her room at the Le-Meridian Hotel, Port-Harcourt, Ibinabo Fiberesima for the first time since her release from prison last year went down the memory lane, explaining the circumstances that led to her Kirikiri journey; the pain, the anguish and the trauma that she went through.

Ibinabo’s prison note…

AFTER YOUR HORRIBLE PRISON EXPERIENCE, HOW IS LIFE TREATING YOU?
Life has been nice to me. I’m a more relaxed person now than before and I’m at peace with myself and you can notice it.

WHAT WOULD YOU SAY IS THE LESSON THAT YOUR RECENT EXPERIENCE TAUGHT YOU? 
Life has taught me to be more careful; to look before I leap. In the past, I used to take a lot of things for granted, but now, I’m calmer. I also pray a lot these days.

DO YOU SEE YOURSELF AS A TESTIMONY OF GOD'S MERCY?
Yes, I’m a defined testimony of God’s mercy. The accident, the trial and the trauma I had to pass through, and finally my release from prison is worthy of a testimony.
I actually don’t remember the accident anymore and it’s amazing. I never believed I could get over the trauma.
While it lasted, I locked myself up in the darkness of my little world for several days without food. It was close to hell.
But I must tell you; the depression, the trauma and the pain were unbearable. I came out of Kirikiri prison, feeling dejected, and abandoned. People no longer wanted me around them any more . But like I said earlier, it’s a different world today.

In prison, the inmates showed me a lot of love, care and sympathy. They also gave me hope and the confidence to live. I was also treated as family in that peaceful environment
Surprisingly and in spite of my incarceration, I’m still celebrated and recognised as a celebrity in the country.

WHAT WENT THROUGH YOUR MIND THE MOMENT YOU WERE USHERED INTO PRISON? 
First, when I was ushered into the Black Maria, after the court verdict, I went into a shock. I cried out for help, but nobody heard my cry .
And when the Black Maria moved from the court to pick other inmates in other courts, it dawn on me that the game was up.
When we got to a particular court, I refused to climb down from the Black Maria.
There, a woman joined me with a child. I was dumfounded. As I summoned up courage to ask what she was doing with a child in a Black Maria, she said to me; “I don’t have anywhere to keep her, hence I’m going to prison with her.” I felt bad.

Eventually, that same baby was soon to become everybody’s baby in prison .
More drama was soon to unfold as the Black Maria approached the prison gate. I passed out.
I couldn’t believe it. That I, Ibinabo was going to make the prison my new home.
For three days, I was in a shock. And when I recovered, I started receiving inmates who called to sympathise with me.

Soon, life returned to normal and my interaction with other inmates became cordial. Life in the prison could be compared to life in a female hostel in high school.

And since I was a boarder in high school, I was quick to adjusted to the environment.

But what hurts most was knowing that some inmates had spent between five and seven years on awaiting trial. All of these will be contained in my prison notes which will be published soon.

HOW DID I MEET CHRIST, YOU MAY WANT TO ASK ME?
In prison, there was a particular pastor that got me to reflect on what brought me to Kirikiri. I thought of so many things including how I begged the family of the man I knocked down. I also thought of my relationship with God and wondered if l was on a good stand with Him.

I wondered if that may have been responsible for my woes. As I pondered over these things, I got connected to my creator.

At that moment, he told me “this is the path you are going to follow from today if you must find peace in life”.

WHILE THE TRIAL LASTED, YOU WERE ALWAYS COVERING YOUR FACE . WAS IT DONE AS A RESULT OF SHAME? 
Yes. It wasn’t a picture I would want to see when I’m out of the prison. If I had allowed my frustration to be captured through the lens of the press guys, it would remain in my memory forever.

HOW DID THE WARDERS TREAT YOU?
The warders were nice to me. I was amazed at the way the warders treated me .

IS IT TRUE THAT YOU WERE DRUNK WHEN THE ACCIDENT HAPPENED?
I was not drunk. I was going to pick up a friend’s daughter at school on Victoria Island. She’d gone to the saloon to make her hair. I was on my way home when she pleaded with me to stop over and pick up her daughter and another lady.

As the lady was not properly dressed, I was counseling her when a group of four guys in a red-car, smoking at random, for no reason trailed and tried to overtake our vehicle.
Sensing danger, I increased my speed, but the guys double theirs.

While trying to avoid hitting their car, I swerved to the other lane and unfortunately collided with two cars on motion. That’s exactly what happened.
When the accident happened, I passed out. And when I woke up, I found myself in the hospital.

As I speak with you, I am yet to set my eyes on that car. I don’t know where they kept the car. And each time I read stories concerning the accident I always feel very bad.

DURING THE TRIAL DID YOU AT ANY POINT FEEL ABANDONED BY FRIENDS OR RELATIONS? 
Abandoned by my friends yes, but by family members, no. They stood by me, while the trial lasted.

A year before the accident in 2005, I had relocated to Port Harcourt. I was in Lagos for a meeting with management of the African Independent Televison (AIT) regarding my annual Miss Earth beauty pageant. They were to partner with my organisation for that year’s edition.

Since the incident happened, I have learnt how not to trust anybody anymore. I put my trust now in the Lord. And this is better explained in the new song I recorded. The music captures my story.

Emotionally, I have been drained and to some extent humiliated, even in public.

I recall a particular situation, where I was called a murderer at a friend’s wedding by a certain lady.

I had stopped to greet a friend when she asked my friend “is that not the murderer”.

I was furious as I confronted her, demanding that she differentiate between manslaughter by accident and murder.

But she later apologised to me, blaming her action on what she read in the national dailies about the accident.

I wasn’t happy that I was involved in that accident and I have said it over and over again that I’m deeply sorry that it ever happened. I don’t know how else to atone for the accident. (The tears started rolling down her cheeks).

I started begging my victim’s family from the very day, the accident happened. My family attended the funeral rites, service of songs and I even attended the 40 days prayer when I was strong enough to move about. I met with the mother and the wife of the deceased. There’s virtually nothing I didn’t do to plead with the deceased’s family to let me off the hook. I’m still pleading with them as I speak with you right now.

WERE YOU EXPECTING THE COURT VERDICT ON THE DAY IT CAME?
I wasn’t. The moment they pronounced the verdict “guilty” I passed out. I didn’t need to hear the rest. I was finished because I had only N5000 in my bag.

While I was trying to mobilise my family members to see how they would raise the N100,000,00 option to jail, a woman I had never met in my life walked up to me to say she’d paid the money on my behalf and handed me the receipt. She urged me to go home and take care of myself. Unknown to Nigerians, I was pregnant when the verdict was reached.

A week after I was released on bail, I traveled abroad to have my baby.

I had complication during delivery and since I was alone over there , I returned home so that my mum could assist me in taking care of the new born baby.

It was indeed when I returned to the country that I started hearing stories that I ran away.

It was also during the period that my lawyer called to tell me that the Lagos State Government had appealed against the N100,000,00 option of fine. Confused, I went back to beg the family again to let me be. But they told me they had no hand in the appeal. That was how I entered for the second trial.

YOU HAVE NOT BEEN ACTING FOR SOME YEARS NOW? 
No. I stopped acting because I didn’t know what was right or wrong anymore. Feeling that the family lost a loved one, I figured that if they kept seeing me on screen, it could raise emotions. So I said let me stay off the screen, for a while for my peace of mind.

The media didn’t help matters too as they kept writing false stories about me. I withdrew from public and social functions.

They kept the attack, reporting stories that I was throwing parties here and there. In fact, most of those reports helped to complicate my situation. People started seeing me as a bitch who did not show an iota of remorse for what happened.

My medical doctor father with whom I lived with, was in pain because of a late colleague, his daughter was on trial.

During the period I lost interest in my businesses. I contracted another company to run my business interests. Nevertheless, I am back into acting and as we speak, I’m on many set.

BEFORE THE ACCIDENT HAPPENED PEOPLE SAW YOU AS RECKLESS? 
I’m not reckless at all. I’m a proper lady. I can act to be that person you see on screen, but I’ m not that person in real life.

Yes, I wouldn’t say I was wild, rather I was a carefree person. And before now, a lot of things did not matter to me. But today, I have given birth to children so I need to be a role model. It hurts me when people write careless things about me in the press. My children read too.

HAVE YOU EVER BEEN MARRIED? 
No, I have not been married. My first son’s father died. We lost him and my second child’s father could not stay with me. Something happened along the line and we couldn’t be together.

When the media came after me, my guy thought I was the one giving out our personal information to them. I tried to explain things but he wouldn’t listen. So we went our separate ways.

Thereafter, I met my heartthrob, Fred Amata and again the press got involved. Fred was my friend first of all, before he became the father of my baby.

The press started writing that the mother never liked me, even as I speak with you, Fred’s mother and I are the best of friends. I talk with her almost every day.

I was accused of breaking Fred’s marriage. I met Fred, four years after he was separated from his wife. So how could I have caused his marriage to crash. If Fred decides to make peace with his wife, I wish them well. I have a relationship with Fred, he’s my baby’s father. I respect and love him. That does not take away the fact that I’m still single and searching. I want to marry and have a complete family. I know God will grant me my heart’s desire because I live a Christ- like life now. That’s all that is missing me, I want to be addressed as Mrs Ibinabo, I really want to settle down.

WHILE YOUR ORDEAL LASTED, WHAT WAS THE REACTION OF YOUR PARENTS? 
You know because of me, my parents stopped reading Nigerian newspapers. My Dad particularly would prefer to listen to the news on television and radio, because of the negative stories they carry about me.

WHAT PROJECT ARE YOU WORKING ON AT THE MOMENT? 
After I prison, I decided to extend help to the less privileged. I ‘m trying to register my Ibinabo Foundation. But before this time, I have been working with a group of lawyers, who are assisting me to help some inmates regain their freedom especially those who are on waiting trial.

At the moment, we have freed two inmates. Of the two, one spent eight years in prison while on awaiting trail. She was 17 years when she was incarcerated. Right now, we are trying to see how we can rehabilitate her so could move on with her life.

The second person, spent four years on awaiting trial. She has been discharged. There are other inmates we are trying to see how they can regain their freedom again. We visited the prison in Port Harcourt, to share my story with the inmates and also to tell them to hold on to the Lord.



story: NCF  Benjamin Njoku

"I'M HAVING A LESBIAN AFFAIR WITH MY FIANCE'S MOTHER"

Hello NYF!
I know it's been such a long time we posted some juicy relationship gists, sorry about that. For this post we have a story sent to us by one of readers (who is not the subject of the story by the way). It is always shocking to read or hear some of these stories and so we are forced to share this one with you...

"...Before I met my fiancée or his family I was never involved in same-sex relations, as a matter of fact Deji-my fiancée is the third man I ever made love to. So it is clear that I am not a promiscuous sort of person at all. Myself and my boyfriend have been dating for close to 3years now and we plan on getting married next summer.

I met Deji's mother and father about 3months before we got engaged, and both his parents were very welcoming and were quick to embrace me. His mother told me to call her mummy and that if I needed anything that I could always come to her for help and advice.

Over the time, I got very close and comfortable with Deji's mother. I was always in their house cooking and cleaning for them and sometimes I even slept over, I was already a part of the family. A few moths ago I went to visit my mother-in-law to be, like I normally do every weekend, when I got to the house she welcome me as usual but on that day she was much more friendly...holding my waist and calling me 'my wife' and kissing me on my cheek. She invited me to her room to talk about the wedding plan (that wasn't unusual because I had been to her room several times in the past). But things seemed strange when I got into the room, she had her TV on and she was watching a lesbian porn movie.

I was so shocked and believed she didn't want me to see it and so I turned it off,  I tried to hide the surprise I felt. When we finally sat down to talk, she asked me if I had ever watched a blue movie and I said no (I was lying), she then turned on the TV again to show the same movie.
she told me to watch it with her, and I agreed feeling very uncomfortable. As we watched the movie, I felt her touching me slightly all over my body.

When I tried to resist, she insisted that it was OK and I would enjoy it and that no one would ever know. That day was the start of a different relationship with my Fiancé's mother. We are now constantly having sex and its easier because my Deji likes that we are really close and we are always together. No one suspects a thing even though I visit and stay over all the time. I can't stop because I am so addicted to it and my mother-in-law says if we stop she will make sure her son does not marry m I just hope that no one ever finds out"

*names were changed*

hmmm this is a whole different level of mother-in-law acceptance. The sins that people have committed in this world ehhh...we need prayers!

FOOLISHNESS: Rapper Ikechukwu fights in Club!

"My goodness, I witnessed this with my own eyes...and what a sight it was. After the MAMAs last night, a few friends and I decided to end the night at Rehab Club on Ajose Adeogun and well, a few minutes after we got there...the fight with Ikechukwu and a bouncer ensued. They wouldn't let him through the gates and he flipped. (They let Naeto C and Sauce Kid in a few minutes before Ikechukwu arrived). It looked like it was deliberate...!

Ikechukwu's such a nice fellow but when he gets angry...wow! During the fight, he took his shirt off, his very expensive sun glasses fell (btw, I have the pic of the guy who took Ikechukwu's glasses incase anyone wants it back...:-)). The bouncer he fought with bled through the nose...I hear Killz has a black belt...or maybe the bouncer didn't really want to fight him back?

Anyway, the rapper has since apologized for his behaviour.
Ikechukwu addressing the issue on twitter this morning.

Ikechukwu's tweets about the incident...

If u party at rehab pls don't talk to me. That club is dead to me. A bouncer put his hands on me for what ????? FUCK REHAB aNd all its fucking people 

"I stOpped going to rehab cos not only does the club just suck as far as space is concerned but it always has one funny smell. Then I just can't stand the people running the club. Feel among dey vex them. If I no gree be ur friend no be by force na. Ah jo oo" 

Just wanna apologize to my fans for bringing myself so low yesterday. This is not the kind of character I portray or expect anyone else to. People will always test u. Show strength with restraint. God bless" - Story: NigeriaFilms.Com

Lol @ him denoucing anyone that goes to rehab...I just feel bad for the 10 or 15 fans he has that might want to go to rebhab but since Ikechukwu says no, I guess its gonna be on and poppin in another club...

Genevieve Nnaji's MUD Cosmetics Commercial

Photo Credit: Bella Naija

Ok guys I just saw this commercial of Genevieve where she is promoting-MUD. It's actually a
nice commercial, better than most we have on air. In it, she talked about why MUD is the best product for her...because it can transform her into a glamorous movie star. Well just watch it to understand why she is a spokesperson for MUD Cosmetics... *please don't laugh*

NEW VIDEO: Banky W ft MI 'Feeling it'

Good morning folks,
This is the spanking new video from Bank W and MI...nice song, good video! I'm just not sure how the video relates to the song but that's just my opinion. You be the judge...

COVER FAB: Eku Edewor Is A Cover Girl Again!!!!

TV Presenter and Naija 'IT' girl is gracing the cover of WOW magazine's latest issue donning a black dress with mesh details complete with a chunky colorful necklace. In her interview, which is one of many now (girl loves her publicity rounds), miss Edewor talks about her upcoming projects which includes the opening of her bar/restaurant. Eku talked about her days as an aspiring model and she narrated her experience as a former contestant on Britain's next top model . she goes on to talk about her love for fashion...

Chick is looking fierce

Nice...

RED CARPET FAB: Sound City Music Video Awards

The SMVAs took place over the weekend and it was a spectacle not to be missed, as mega stars from all around the continent were in Lagos to experience the uber fabulousness that ensued. You know that we at mynyf always want to know who came out looking glam and who left their house without taking a look at the mirror. Scroll down to view a few of the celebrities who marched the red carpet...

Ibinabo Fiberisima looking beautiful

Chika and Adaora Oleh looking gorgeous. Great skin!

Da Bling...no comment on the Nicki Minaj bootleg outfit.

Ayo Adesanya

hmmm Uche, it looks like your weight is creeping back up o...

Ugonna Omeruo, risky outfit but she pulled it off. Love the makeup

Zizi Cardow. not really feeling this choice of clothing.

Ricky Sanda and Susan Peters

say what you wanna say, but Omo Sexy is working it!

Arafe Ufonga and Seluwa Moma

Current MBGN Fiona Amora Amuzie looking radiant

The guys did not dissapoint as they graced the carpet looking like they just raided Kanye West's closet...not sure if that's a good or bad thing. You decide...

Cutie Dare was present

Naeto C came through.

Looks like fun times were had...other attendees were Banky W (who won an award), 2Face (nabbed 2 awards), Genevieve, MoCheddah, Sasha, PSquare (2 awards), Dbanj, Rita Dominic and many more Nollywood personalities...  Congrats to all the winners and nominees. I hear it was a good show.